There are SO many life lessons to be learned. So much traditions, trends and attributes to being a mother. I am confident to say "Mommy" is probably my best role in life. Besides being me, of course. But Mommy was just something I always dreamed of, I have always worked hard at and what I have always felt the most confident in doing. I may not always be the perfect wife, or housekeeper, or employee. God knows if I was more punctual I would be much better at my job. But, Mommy, I feel good about. But, there are things that I want to do as a mother, to teach as a mother, and as a mother my best way to do that is to teach by example.
So I have been thinking about some of those things I want...
1. Most important is to LOVE her Daddy. Relationships are not always easy, marriage is definitely not always easy but the relationship her Daddy and I have will be one of the greatest influences in her life. I want to teach her to love so deeply and so truly. Passionately. To smile and to laugh. To share and encourage. To know that although it isn't always easy, no relationship is, you hold true to your love and always let that be your base. To teach and to love and also, to learn.
2. To have fun. To make forts, jump puddles and to get dirty. When it rained a couple months ago, we got out of the car and instead of running to the house, Eleni stood on the sidewalk and held her mouth open. She said "Mommy, taste the rain, It is delicious." So many things, this little girl of ours teaches me. To know when to stop, to enjoy the moment and to NOT worry about making a mess.
3. To sing and dance. To listen to all different music. This is how I know Eleni is so much like her Daddy. She LOVES all different music. Etta James, Michael Jackson, Adele, Maxwell, Elizabeth Mitchell, Andrea Bocelli, Zach Brown Band, Mumford and Sons, Brad Paisley, Heart, Landon Pigg....the list goes on and on. She listens to a song and catches on to the tune and words immediately. I am not as musical as her Daddy and her are, I don't have the ear for music like they do. But I sure want to continue to encourage her passion and interest for it.
4. To share secrets with her, and to bond. She is only three now but as she gets older I hope to have the relationship I have with my mom. To have her call me whenever she needs me or just wants to chat, to have her confide in me and trust me.
5. I want to teach her to be confident in her thoughts. To stand up and fight for that she believes in but also to respect others opinions and be open to learn.
6. I also want to teach her how she is beautiful. And that beauty is not just what you see on the outside, beauty lies in your heart, your soul and in your spirit. And to always keep that alive.
7. I want to always "mother" her no matter how old she is. To know I will always hold her hand, let her sit on my lap, cuddle in bed or on the couch and always make her "comfy cozy" like my mom has always made me.
8. I want to teach her and encourage her that girls can do anything. She is three and LOVES planes and if she wants to be a pilot she can be. She is also very headstrong and determined and if she wants to be the president one day, she can work very hard to attain that goal. She is also very animated and musical and if she wants to be a Broadway star she should work hard to get there. And I want her to know that no matter what she decides to do, her Daddy and I will always encourage her, support her and be her BIGGEST fans. But she will have to work hard to accomplish any goal she has.
9. I want to always make time to cook with her and bake with her and teach her how to cook and bake. I hope she can learn from my mother in law how to make all the delicious Persian dishes she makes.
10. I promise to always be present for her. Whenever she needs me, I promise to always be there no matter what and not just there, but present for whatever she needs. An ear, advise, a swift kick in the butt, I'm there. Not just an ornament.
11. I also promise to discipline her when she is not doing what she needs to be, when she makes a wrong turn in life. I promise to be there as a road block, as much as possible, and I PROMISE to always be aware and in your business. I hated my parents for this when I was a teenager, but now as a mother, I so know why, and thank them.
12. I will teach her to be independent. To go to college, to get a career and always have a leg to stand on. To be the woman she wants to be and know she can always be successful herself.
13. To play dress up with her, to pretend, to do makeup and paint our nails together.
14. To teach her manners. To teach her to always say please and thank you. To wait for people to get off the elevator before she gets on. To hold the door open for people, to respect her elders, to respect others beliefs and cultures and traditions and try to embrace them.
15. To embrace the INCREDIBLE woman she has as role models. 7 grandmas. Not many kids have that and I hope she spends quality time with all of them. To learn from them.
16. I promise to always kiss her, always hug her and hold her, no matter how old she is.
17. To always make our house, home to her. No matter how old she is.
18. To read to her. To encourage her to read.
19. That life isn't always fair. Some people get things handed to them that they don't have to work for. You will not always get what you want. Sometimes she will not get the job she dreamed of on her first shot. Someone may have a nicer car than her. But to take pride in all she attains herself, to work hard, and to know it just isn't always fair. U gotta deal with it.
20. To believe in herself, always.
21. To put her family first, they are the ones who will always be there.
22. To love God.
23. To love herself.
24. To exercise at least 3-4 times a week. An example Daddy and I need to teach.
25. To love.
26. When she is lost, or discouraged to know home and Mommy and Daddy will ALWAYS be there.
27. To dream
28. To see the world and travel.
There are so many things I hope to teach her. People always tell me how much I am in love with Eleni. How my life revolves around her. And they are right, she is our footprint. She is the one thing in life I am totally responsible for and the one thing in life I can teach and it is my job to teach her everything I can. Our job, our little footprint on this world.....
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